Hi,

The first quarter of this year has been both a challenging AND exciting time for me. How about for you? Are you learning, growing and meeting your goals?

There’s a saying, within every problem, issue, challenge is a gift waiting to be uncovered, discovered and learned from. Boy have I been doing just that... lot’s of learning and a bit of suffering too. However, as Eckhart Tolle points out in his new book- A New Earth (see below) and in his web classes on oprah.com, it is through human suffering that we get our greatest awakening and become more conscious and aware in the present moment, and it is through the present moment we find the greatest peace. 

I have been discovering a lot about myself this year. I feel I am looking in the mirror and at the same time I am shredding layers of worn-out stuff (conditioned thinking, past thinking, emotions, memories and beliefs about myself, others and about material possessions and form) finding out who I really am underneath all those layers.

You know this isn’t always easy! But someone’s got to do it. I am a teacher, and I am only as good as I am a student and I am learning about myself, so I can then turn around and help others and you and the world. It’s an adventure and a journey I am on and I want you to come along with me and learn and grow with me!

Are you sometimes REACTIVE when you don’t want to be? One thing I am learning is how to first become conscious of and then dismantle reactivity, in doing so you are available to your intuition and your creativity read more below in my Relationship Tips section.

Don’t forget to buy my book as a special gift, or for yourself, go to: http://www.successfulrelationshipsnow.com/Pages/Products.html

To Your Happiness and Success,

Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Strategist,” Author of The Cinderella System™: 7 Steps to Attracting the Man & Relationship of Your Dreams, www.TheCinderellaSystem.com

April 16, 23- PAX Mastery & Leadership Research Calls
April 19- Attending David Neagle’s XCountry Tour (see below) in Los Angeles, CA
April 30-May 3- Las Vegas work & play trip
April 26- Couples Coaching Intensive 9:30am-3:30pm
May 7-  Tele-seminar guest of Lisa Crisalle’s Fit, Fabulous and Forty Program
May 15- 12noon Tele-seminar Guest of Lauren Sullivan- Topic: Relationship Communication Secrets (see details below)
May 7- June 7 – Book Launch Month & Celebration

WOMEN-WOULD YOU LIKE TO UNDERSTAND MEN BETTER, SO YOU TOO CAN HAVE BETTER RELATIONSHIPS! AND MEN, WOULD YOU LIKE TO UNDERSTAND WOMEN BETTER SO YOU CAN HAVE LESS HEADACHES AND MORE LOVE & FUN!

**Join me Wednesday May 15th, 2008 at 12noon PST for a great Tele-seminar on this popular subject with Host Lauren Sullivan author of Give Wings to Your Dreams For more information and to sign-up go to: http://www.inspiredlifedesign.com/teleclasses/WingsOverviewPage.pdf

*Keep a look out for my emails with the call-in details.

"Reactivity vs. Intuition and Creativity?"
By Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Strategist”

Reactivity is caused by our thoughts about a situation (conditioned, programmed from the past) and then our thoughts, the ego part or saboteur part of us, judge the situation, wanting to be superior or inferior to others, or just plain wanting something it’s not getting, lead to us experiencing negative emotion.

Tip #1 Start by understanding and acknowledging to yourself that you can dismantle negative emotion and reactivity by first becoming conscious of this process mentioned above

Tip #2 When you find yourself in a situation where you are triggered negatively (thoughts, physically, emotionally), first STOP and become conscious of the feeling, don’t resist it or judge it as wrong or bad, just be aware of it and then take your attention to your breath or your life energy in your hands, rather than into the negative feeling, this will help you to stay out of your thoughts (ego) which will pull you deeper into ego, pain-body and negative thoughts and more of the emotion.

Tip #3 It is in the awareness (the space between the thought, emotion and awareness of all) where you will find peace, intuition and  creativity to solve the situation without emotion and reactivity.

Try this practice next time you are triggered with your partner or at work and email me to tell me how it worked. Please Call me (310) 202-1610- I am a Master Relationship Coach and Behavior Specialist dedicated to help you communicate and understand yourself and each other better so you can have a healthier relationship NOW!

I hope these tips help you if you are challenged with this issue in your relationship. Stay positive, with every challenge is a gift waiting to be discovered!

Remember: In order to be the person you have never been, In order to have the life and relationships you have never had, You must do what you have never done before: Give me a call or contact me so I can support you in having the best life you’ve ever had!

© 2008 Dr. Cindy Brown

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The New Earth: Awakening Your Life’s Purpose by Eckhart Tolle and the web-cast series each week on Monday evenings at 6pmPST, 9:00pmEST check it out on Oprah.com

I have been enjoying reading this book and listening to the class each week. This material and the conversations have opened my eyes to many of my own destructive patterns and my aliveness that resides underneath. Go buy this book (and mine) if you are ready to become more aware, evolved and have the life that you want.

Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Strategist,” a leading behavior and relationship specialist, executive and results coach, international business trainer, author and speaker who has helped 1000’s of executives, individuals and couples in the areas of relationship skills and success strategies; leadership and communication skills; Business/Employee Health, Work/ Life Balance and Stress Management. She is author of The Cinderella System™ 7 Steps to Attracting the Man & Relationship of Your Dreams and Co-author of Power & Soul.

Dr. Brown is the founder and president of Behavior, Relationship Institute Inc., and Dr. Cindy Brown International- a professional Training and Relationship Coaching Company dedicated to resolving business and personal relationships and issues from the inside-out. Her company’s slogan is – A Healthier Way To Work and Live!  Visit all of our sites www.TheCinderellaSystem.com, www.SuccessfulRelationshipsNow.com and also our corporate site at www.DrCindyBrownIntl.com to get your FREE SPECIAL REPORT, FREE AUDIO CLASS and great tips and articles to improve your Success and Relationships NOW!