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Happy Aprils Fool’s Day! No I am not pregnant, nor do I have some mysterious illness. However, I do have some exciting news! I have become very popular in the media lately. I decided to send out a press release regarding the Eliot Spitzer sex scandal and about why men cheat last week and have been inundated with newspaper, online and radio interviews and offers, and as a result my book is wildly selling off of my website and on amazon.com... WHOO HOO!  See the full story here.

Where did you spend Easter weekend? I went Skiing in Lake Tahoe, CA with my honey and we had an excellent time Spring skiing. I am renewed and relaxed and ready to take on the press for another week and to help my coaching clients soar to new heights personally and professionally! How about you are you renewed? Read my last two issues of my newsletter archived on my website and get those free tips.

Why do people cheat you ask…In this issues Featured Article I tell you the top reasons why people cheat and how to keep your relationship solid and out of the danger zone! Read on…

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To Your Happiness and Success,

Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Strategist,” Author of The Cinderella System™: 7 Steps to Attracting the Man & Relationship of Your Dreams, www.TheCinderellaSystem.com

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"Why do Men/Women Cheat?  And How Do We Create a Healthy Relationship Where Both People Stay Motivated Towards Monogamy?"
By Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Relationship Strategist”

I wrote this article because of the hot stories/sex scandals in the news lately. These are the biggest questions I am being asked to answer in my media interviews lately. So I thought I would share my research and then my tips with you so you too can have healthier happier relationships NOW!

Why do people in committed relationships cheat?
• Boredom
• Need for variety, something different or “better”
• Stroke their ego, get validation outside their relationship
• To get needs met (intimacy, love, affection, certain kind of sex, listening, communicating) that are not being fulfilled in their committed relationship
• To rebel, and/or a reaction of anger towards their partner, or something or someone in their past
• For the excitement, risk, “it’s naughty”
• People feel entitled, grandiose, need for power, above the law, that they won’t get caught (these are some of the qualities of Narcissism, My theory is that Eliot Spitzer had some of these qualities.

Can you think of more? You can email me with your ideas or comments. I’d love to hear them.

SO how do we create a healthy relationship where both people stay motivated towards monogamy?

• Communicate with your partner regularly about likes, wants and needs. DO this with respect and love. Use the active listening technique (see next tip.)

• Be aware of your partners body language, attitude, relating patterns with you. When you see something out of the ordinary ask lovingly “Can we Talk.” And then really listen!, DO NOT INTERUPT, listen!, DO NOT GET DEFENSIVE, LEARN what he/she wants and needs in the relationship and see if you can support that. Or see if you can negotiate a “give and take” arrangement-for example: “I will give you more sex if you will help with the kids, let me take a nap or sleep-in, I can get my nails done or have girl time etc.

• Create fun events, trips, mini-vacations, long vacations often to have something to get excited about, but also to get you out of the same routine and environment (possibly away from your kids). Often couples report they have more fun and laughter AND the best intimacy and sex at these times.

• Discover what interests or passion you both want to share in and regularly partake in these activities with each other. This creates aliveness within each of you separately; which you can celebrate together in the experience you share together.

• Call me (310) 202-1610- Dr. Cindy Brown, I am a Master Relationship Coach and Behavior Specialist dedicated to help you communicate and understand yourselves and each other better so you can have a healthier relationship NOW!

I hope these reasons and tips help you if you are challenged with this issue in your relationship. Stay positive, with every challenge is a gift waiting to be discovered!

Remember: In order to be the person you have never been, In order to have the life and relationships you have never had, You must do what you have never done before: Give me a call or contact me so I can support you in having the best life you’ve ever had!

© 2008 Dr. Cindy Brown

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