Hi,

What an exciting weekend it was for me! I bought a new car and overcame a lot of my own old fear all at the same time!  It has been a few years since I went through this process, and the last experience was not so pleasant (if you know what I mean!). I was dreading sitting in “the chair” and going into the finance office with “that man.” I had researched my car (actually my sweetheart had done a wonderful extensive search) and I came armed with some great “ammo” (information), my warrior attitude... and a determination to get the price I wanted and not cave into the car salesman pressure.

My strategy worked like this-I patiently spoke my truth and said what I needed to- to the salesman Jerry, breathed deeply throughout the process, kept my thinking and listening clear and my energy up with snacks and water and continually reassured myself with positive self talk that we were doing great asking for, NO insisting on what we wanted. The very strategies I coach my clients to do in stressful situations where your fear comes up, negotiating or confronting people with what you want.

Well I am proud to say I got my price and did a fantastic job of it (I do say so myself). I practiced the very tools I teach my clients of how to overcome any phobia or fear... and it worked!!! Coach healed thyself! Did you guess what car I got? My friend Ali convinced me to get this sexy car and I love it. We are going to drive up the coast this week and take it for a spin... two blondes ride off in the sun to rip up the road! The first of you to email me with the specific car I bought gets a very special prize I have for you.

What fear or phobia is holding you back? Do you have fears and phobias that are affecting your relationships, current job, career path or your life in general? Well today’s feature article- “FEAR THIS: Simple Steps to Master Your Fear for Good!” shares some valuable information to help you with this. Read on...

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Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Business & Relationship Dr”, Creator of the NEW BEST SELLING “Relationship Secrets: From Whiner to Winner Instantly!”
 

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“FEAR THIS: Simple Steps to Master Your Emotions for Good!”

By Dr. Cindy Brown, “The Business & Relationship Dr.”

As a behavior specialist and coach I know first hand that fear and phobias drastically affect many people every day. According to Wikipedia (a great online resource) “Fear is a powerful, unpleasant feeling of risk or danger, either real or imagined.” Now we can describe fear by many different terms in accordance with its relative degrees; personal fear varies extremely in degree from mild caution to extreme phobia and paranoia.

What I have seen working with my clients over the past 17 years, is that fear is related to a number of emotional states including worry, anxiety, terror, fright, paranoia, horror, panic (social and personal), persecution complex and dread. I have some powerful tools and strategies I teach my clients to either work with and/or manage their fear and negative emotions, or eliminate it completely. Is this something you would benefit from? Read on….

The first step to your personal growth with anything you want to change is: Awareness and acknowledgement- here it would be of your fear and the stimulus (that which triggers your emotion) of that emotion. You can do this by:

Beginning to understand yourself and your emotions and your past contributing factors. You can try o do this by yourself by writing, journaling or taking some personal time to explore this on your own, however many people need a trained coach/therapist to ask the specific questions to trigger your memory and the process of deeper exploration, discovery and healing. This will help you understand yourself, thus heal your fear and any accompanying behaviors that are affecting your life. I use some alternative techniques that instantly help speed this process. Give me a call (310) 202-1610 if you can benefit from these advanced techniques.

Also here are some quick simple techniques you can use in the moment of fear that you can also practice:

• Take some time-out to calm yourself, even remove yourself from the stimulus or environment if possible- to get some space and room to take care of yourself. Remember the saying “When emotion is high, intelligence is low!”

• Talk yourself out of your emotions- I teach clients in our coaching sessions an emotional management technique called EMT^TM that instantly helps you with your emotions. I also have a home study version included in my Are You Stressed product available ORDER here.

• Breathe: focus on your breath-this physiologically lowers your blood pressure and reduces other stress related symptoms. Also, clears your mind and helps you think more rationally about how to take care of yourself the best.

• Distract yourself from negative emotions or thoughts, focus on something positive. When we substitute a negative stimulus with a positive one, we can often change our mind and bodies cognitive and physiological response to it as well. I teach my clients to do this with both hypnosis and other more advanced techniques with amazing results.

In the moment of fear and stress you can follow these simple techniques outlined above for instant results. If you need additional more advanced support and help please contact me (310) 202-1610. I would be happy to assist you.

Remember: In order to be the person you have never been, In order to have the life and relationships you have never had, You must do what you have never done before. Give me a call or contact me so I can support you in being the best you you’ve ever been and having the best 2007!

© 2007 Dr. Cindy Brown

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Dear Dr. Cindy:
I am really frustrated! I really need your help! I have a small business and I keep getting into conflict with my clients over my work and paying me the money I ‘ve worked hard for. What am I doing to attract this? And what should I do to prevent this from happening again?

Seeking answers
H. L.

Dear Seeking Answers:
I am here to help you! According to the Law of Attraction, what ever you focus on consciously or unconsciously you attract. I would have you look at what you feel you deserve or not deserve and what is unfinished in your life. What you may be doing is thinking/feeling you are undeserving and also you may be repeating a pattern from your childhood- where you couldn’t set boundaries or speak up for what you deserved.

Also, business-wise what I would suggest is creating a client contract and business policy form for your clients to sign and also make your clients pay with retainer up front. Give me a call so I can work with you on your self-esteem, confidence and communications skills as well.

All my best to you,

Dr. Brown will answer your questions here each month. Please send your questions to info@drcindybrownintl.com.

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